A professional reference request should first ask whether the person is willing, then provide the role, opportunity, deadline, and context they would need to give an informed reference. Do not list someone as a reference merely because you have worked together.
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Quick answer
Ask permission directly: “Would you be comfortable serving as a reference for my product-manager application? The role focuses on launch planning and cross-functional work.”
Key details
Core Issuea reference request should ask permission, explain the role or purpose, give useful context, and avoid assuming the person has agreed
Phrase Roleasking someone whether they are willing to provide or serve as a professional reference
Registerprofessional
Further guidance
Context
Give the role, program, opportunity, deadline, and relevant work you hope they can speak to.
Follow Up
If they agree, send any submission instructions or materials in a separate, easy-to-use form rather than making them reconstruct the details.
Permission
Ask whether the person is comfortable providing the reference before treating them as confirmed.
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